Making friends (especially with the opposite sex) is a minefield, often with both parties having no clue where they actually stand. In relationships, ‘the talk’ comes around at some point, defining exactly where the future is going but the same doesn’t happen with pals, and that can be confusing.
But here are some clear-cut signs that you’re on your way to becoming friends:
1. Eek, You’re Cool!
You admire them from afar, they say something that sparks your attention, maybe they like something that you do and all you want to do is talk about it with them, but you aren’t sure if you can quite yet...
2. Is It All In My Head?
You talk, all the while trying to size up whether your potential new friend feels the same way you do. You want to be cool, but you also want them to know how much you want to be in their life but as friends. This stage can be incredibly awkward, but as long as they ask for a way to keep in touch, it’s safe to say you’re in.
It’s the age-old question, isn’t it? Can men and women really be friends? Seriously, without any feelings getting in the way? While some people strongly disagree that it can be done, there is a lot of evidence to the contrary. In fact, research suggests that totally the opposite is true:
“The belief that men and women can't be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance. Now they work together and share interests and socialize together.” [Psychology Today, 2001]
So, what reasons are there to make opposite sex friends?
Well, firstly, you will be given an entirely new world perspective. There’s no denying that men and women view the world in totally different ways, and gaining some insight into that will help you to get a better idea of things. Whether it be dating, work problems, even picking out a gift for someone else... having an insight from both genders can be incredibly useful. You’...