It’s a common misconception that once you’ve found ‘the one’, you must forego all close friends of the opposite sex for fear of them getting in the way of your happiness, but is that really the case? Is anyone really worth giving up your pals for? After all, boyfriends can come and go, but friends, they are there forever. It’s certainly not the easiest obstacle you’ll have to overcome, whilst keeping everyone happy too.
But if someone is really important to you, and you don’t want to have to give them up, following these friendship rules should help you to navigate this new territory
1. Don’t keep it a secret!
If you find yourself spending time with your friend instead of your partner, and you aren’t telling them about it, then something must be up. Some people consider doing anything in secret, acting in any way you wouldn’t in front of your partner as cheating, so beware. Are you really willing to throw your relationship away? And why do you feel the need to be so private? Is there som...
Admittedly, it isn’t always easy to be just friends with a member of the opposite sex. But when it’s sexual attraction, rather than real feelings, that gets in the way, an easy solution is to get into a ‘friends with benefits’ type of agreement. This is when you hook up randomly, when you’re both in the mood, with no strings attached. This can be someone you’ve known for a long time, or someone you’ve met recently, it doesn’t really matter.
But does it always work out? Is it as simple as it appears? Can you both overcome your physical attraction, get that relief, and continue being friends? Sure, but only if you decide to make some strict ground rules to start with, and you stick to them. For example, if you decide never to flirt publicly around each other, ensure that always happens. Or if you agree to end it as soon as one of you gets involved with someone else, then do that. Don’t stray away from the rules if you want it to work.
However, sometimes the lines manage to get blurred with...
Reading guys can sometimes be difficult, especially when you have feelings clouding your judgement. It’s easy to make things much bigger than they are, or to twist events to see things you want to see. It’s one of those unfortunate life experiences that nearly all of us goes through at some point... realizing that he just isn’t into you! Hopefully if you can spot these early signs, it’ll stop a lot of heartache later on:
1. He doesn’t notice things about you
You get a haircut, he doesn’t see it, you tell him what you’re up to over the weekend, he never remembers it, you discuss a band you both like and he forgets that you ever had that conversation... sound familiar? If he isn’t interested in these little details about you, then he’s not paying enough attention. And really, if he doesn’t notice you now, what makes you think he’ll be any better as a boyfriend? Is that really what you want? Didn’t think so!
2. He gives you a nickname that’s similar to his guy friends